To Be Happily Married Without Her Knowing It
A Letter to my Brother-in-law
weekend, you will do the unspeakable. You will in one moment go
from being a happy-go-lucky bachelor to sharing your closet with
44 pairs of shoes and 68 things that are unmentionable. If you
took the time to read the license, you now know that you are getting
someone gets married, there is usually a festive spirit in the
air. Family members cry, the dogs howl, and the guests wish their
best to the new bride and groom. No one ever really gets into
how to make the marriage work, as such discussion might actually
depress the wedding party and cause the cake to deflate on the
you are my brother-in-law, and my wife is sort of fond of you
for some reason, I have decided to give you the real-world scoop
on things. As I have lots of marriage experience, I am sure that
you will gladly accept my advice and take it to heart.
first rule of marriage is Never go to bed angry. I
know from personal experience just how important this rule is.
It keeps peace in the house and allows everyone to sleep better.
When you are angry, and it is bedtime, volunteer to sleep on the
couch. Incidentally, volunteering her to sleep on the couch can
be detrimental to your health.
good-bye to your checkbook. This isnt really so bad. It
means that someone will finally figure out what to do with all
of those bank statements that they send you at the end of each
month. It also keeps you from figuring out just how much the monthly
shoe bill is, and a guy really doesnt want to know things
you are ever caught looking at another woman, make remarks about
how badly her clothes match. This is an A-1 way to
weasel out of a sticky situation. Adding in the statement Its
a shame that she doesnt have your fashion sense is
totally unnecessary and will lead your spouse to believe that
you are just trying to weasel out of a sticky situation.
to cry. As any Redbook reader will tell you, your wife will need
to see some tears at times, particularly if she breaks a fingernail.
Though most guys fail miserably at flowing tears, I find that
if I go into the shop and hit my thumb with a hammer, I can make
this happen easily. If you break your nail in the process, do
not even attempt to mention it.
ask family for advice on marital issues. If you go to your mother,
your wife will call you a mamas boy. If you
go to her mother, she will accuse you of plotting against her.
Instead, get your advice from a complete stranger that she does
not know. This will ensure that it never gets back to her that
you have been discussing your married life all over town. Hint:
make sure the stranger is NOT in the hair-care industry.
this information will not cover every situation that arises, it
will at least give you a foundation to hide behind. It will keep
you from making horrible faux pas (thats French for Uh
oh), and also keep your new bride happy and content with
the fact that she could have chosen Tom Cruise, but instead just
chose to be stuck with you. Now you can go about your life like
all of us married men, and do whatever she tells you to.
Oh, and there is one last piece of advice: If you tell any of
this to your sister, I am gonna tell your wife what really went
on at that bachelor party.
Quick lives in Louisiana and is an engineer by day. He has
been a columnist for The Inquisitor for two years.