Muscadine Lines: A Southern Journal

Boy, Was I Wrong

Bridgett Nesbit


When I was a teenager, I fell madly in love with a boy at school. I was entranced by his smile and was almost positive we’d marry one day and have children. I wrote his name on every scrap piece of paper I could find and began practicing my signature using his last name.

Boy, was I wrong.

When I turned twenty-five, I walked into a store to purchase my first legal pack of cigarettes. I thought ladies who smoked cigarettes looked cool, but boy, was I wrong.

I like to tell my children about past judgments that I now look back on and say, "What was I thinking?" because I want them to learn from their errors, too.

My teenager who I am convinced has been swapped out by aliens thinks nothing is more important than the phone. I tell her we didn‘t have portable phones when I was her age, just a long cord to use while walking through the house and no three-way calling either—the operator would interrupt your conversation if someone was trying to get through.

To my daughter, I am as outdated and old-fashioned as that kind of telephone service.

But I tell her that even though things are different now, I remember the way I looked at life back then, and some of the lessons I learned still ring true today, ones that can help to ease the "Boy, was I wrong" situations:

1. God will never put more on you than you can bear, because he loves you.

2. Learn to love yourself; it is the only way you can love someone else properly.

3. You run the streets for your time and then the streets run you.

4. Association breeds affiliation.

5. A dog that brings a bone will take one back. (Someone who constantly comes and tells you what others are saying about you is only coming to get information to take back to others).

6. A person who steals can take more than your material possessions; he can take one of your most valuable assets: time.

7. It is not good for man to be alone, but it is best for the woman to be if he is not a good man.

8. The things in life you love should love you.

9. Don't associate with people who make constant withdrawals from your life and no deposits.

10. Some people in your life only deserve balcony seats, not front row.

11. A lie doesn't care who tells it, just as long as it gets told.

12. Ignorance has a steep price, but common sense reaps only rewards.

13. Persistence is the key to winning any battle in life.

14. A person can go in life no further than they can dream.

15. Good character is like a light piercing through darkness.

Hopefully, when my daughter has lived a bit longer, instead of considering me as old-fashioned, she’ll be able to see the pearls of wisdom in the adages, saving her from the “Boy I was wrong,” decisions.

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Bridgett Nesbit is a writer for the Charlotte Observer in Cornelius, North Carolina, by trade, and an inspirational writer and poet by hobby.

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